Under The Veil – A Witty Wedding Podcast
I'm on a podcast!
Josey Stafford of Sixpence Events and Planning is rolling out this brilliant little project called Under the Veil, a witty wedding podcast that gets down to the details (both the fancy decor AND the nitty-gritty behind-the-scenes).
With equal parts wedding planning experience and a wacky sense of humor, Josey hosts conversations with guests from every corner of the wedding world, including vendors, venue managers/owners, and married/engaged couples.
A few weeks ago, I sat down with Josey for Under The Veil Episode 007 to chat unapologetically about what it's like to work with a seasoned pro wedding photographer verses a novice. We also talked about what a normal wedding photography day looks like for me, some of the trends and expectations about wedding photography that have changed since I get married (10 years ago!), and some of the things that matter more (and less) after the wedding fairy dust has settled.
Here are some takeaways:
- A good shot list of formal photos should have names AND relationships (Bride + Bride's mom (Joan), Bride + Groom + Groom's brother (Ted), etc). Standard wedding shots (the kiss, first dance, etc) don't need to be included in the shot list. Unique photo ops (Grandma's locket on bouquet, Grand March lip sync battle, etc) should be noted within the wedding day timeline. [SIDE NOTE: This has me thinking about publishing my standard (and awesome!) wedding day timeline/shot list on it's own blog post, so stay tuned...]
- No, you will not be board on your wedding day. It's never happened. It never will.
- You don't need or want 4 hours of getting ready photos. Photography usually starts one hour before the bride gets into the dress and ends about 30 minutes to an hour into the dance.
- First look vs no first look has a big impact on your timeline. Don't want a first look? Leave LOTS of time after the ceremony for photos, like 3 hours. No, I'm not kidding.
- Not just any wedding photographer is going to be right for you. Instagram is a great place to see what kind of work photographers love to create (man, I should really post more on there). Don't pick a photographer who makes moody, dramatic pictures if you want light and pastel. Also, the customer service is just as important. Read reviews and talk to friends who've gotten married recently.
- Delegate. Then delegate some more. Don't give yourself a Pinterest-induced panic attack the week of your wedding. People want to help.
- If your mom wants 15 combinations of family photos, say yes (not the day-of, but while your writing the shot list). Those "boring family photos" that no one wants to take will be what you cherish years down the road. And you'll be really glad you took some (tactfully) without your brother's then-but-not-anymore-girlfriend.
- Also, and MOST IMPORTANTLY, your wedding is about your relationship, not the other way around. Spend at least as much effort getting ready to be together "til death do us part" as you do getting ready to say "I do." Premarital counseling is like building a great car engine, not fixing something that's broken. It also gets you a nice discount on that marriage license!
You'll also get to hear us talk about legos, DC Comics vs Marvel, the politics of boutonniere pinning, and ALL the mistakes I made shooting my first wedding back in 2012!